{"id":5311,"date":"2022-12-07T13:12:46","date_gmt":"2022-12-07T13:12:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/vianlp.com\/?post_type=newsletter&p=5311"},"modified":"2025-03-24T14:42:15","modified_gmt":"2025-03-24T12:42:15","slug":"purpose-pause-state-more-viktoria-jordanovska","status":"publish","type":"newsletter","link":"https:\/\/vianlp.com\/mk\/newsletter\/purpose-pause-state-more-viktoria-jordanovska\/","title":{"rendered":"Purpose, Pause, State and more…"},"content":{"rendered":"

With this newsletter I am excited to share with you matters I care about, hoping that it will inspire you to reflect, act and develop greater confidence and self-awareness in your roles. <\/em>Because the most important relationship in our life is the one we have with our Self!<\/strong><\/em> I will be sharing with you tips, questions, knowledge and my views to help you develop this relationship and go on an expedition to meet and start valuing and loving yourself in the size and the shape you are. The more you know about your Self, the better you will lead yourself and others and you can create a world to which people want to belong.<\/em><\/p>\n

Let us begin with a wish for a happy month of April…. <\/em><\/p>\n

First, an announcement:<\/h3>\n

Do you believe that in order to lead others you need first to be able to lead yourself? Join me at this month’s Self Expedition Caf\u00e9<\/a> with my co-host for this edition Martina Jeric-Ruzovits<\/a>, Business Communication Trainer & Coach. In a relaxed atmosphere we develop each other by sharing and caring.<\/p>\n

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Wednesday, 6th April! <\/strong>Your only investment is your time and your benefits are multifold!<\/p>\n

You can register now \ud83d\udc49 https:\/\/forms.gle\/MTWKbcLaDKivzff38<\/a><\/p>\n

To continue…<\/em><\/p>\n

Have you ever heard of the Vagus Nerve?<\/h3>\n

Modern science is discovering so much about how our organism works. In NLP we have a presupposition that says:<\/p>\n

Mind and body are one inseparable organism and they influence each other.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Even Charles Darwin realized that there was a vital two-way connectivity between brain and body, and today we have scientific research confirming the bidirectional pathways of this communication. Activity in the mind can influence the body and vice versa, activity in the body can influence the mind.<\/p>\n

One such neural communication pathway is the vagus nerve<\/strong>. It is the second largest nerve in our body and it connects the “upper” brain with the gastrointestinal system – our “second brain” – the gut. It is also called the enteric brain <\/em>and it is our oldest brain. As Adam Hadzy writes in his article Think Twice: How the Gut’s “Second Brain” Influences Mood and Well-Being<\/a>, it produces many beneficial hormones, including 95% of the serotonin<\/span>(the happy chemical) in the body.<\/p>\n

Just imagine, our gut is a factory for feel-good hormones \ud83d\ude03<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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Now the interesting part is that for every motor nerve that sends commands from the brain to the gut via the vagus nerve, there are nine sensory nerves that send information about the state of the gut to the brain. Our stomach is full of sensory nerves, it has a lot to say to our brain (a ratio of 9:1) and thus it highly influences it!<\/strong><\/p>\n

We have all experienced “butterflies in our stomach” or “knots in our gut”, these are messages coming from our gut and we need to start listeningto what they are saying. By ignoring them, we are out of touch with ourselves. But, by becoming aware of these sensations, we can begin communicating and connecting to our Self.<\/p>\n

Our body will always tell us what it needs. But, if we are constantly in our head thinking and overthinking everything, we miss out on these sensations.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Thinking kills the feeling! <\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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Stop reading now, you will return later. Give yourself one minute of attention! <\/strong><\/p>\n

Simply close your eyes now and sense what goes on inside. <\/strong><\/p>\n

You can learn how to stimulate the vagus nerve for better mental health<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Next up, another announcement:<\/em><\/p>\n

Introductory online NLP workshop and Q&A session<\/h3>\n

It was 13 years ago when I signed up for my NLP Practitioner course. Since then I have evolved into a coach and trainer myself and I use the wonderful tools of NLP in my daily life. These tools helped me advance in my career, move to Austria, become a better leader, improve my relationships, beat cancer, improve my coaching practice and overall improve my well being and resilience. Do you wonder what NLP can do for you?<\/p>\n

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Unfortunately NLP has a “bad” reputation in some countries, especially in Austria. Therefore, my mission is to show those that are curious and brave<\/strong> enough to look beyond the judgement, and those open to new learnings<\/strong>what NLP is and how it can help you in every aspect of your life. NLP is a chameleon!<\/p>\n

Are you one of those brave, curious and open people?<\/strong> Yes? Then join me for a free introductory online NLP workshop and Q&A session on the 12th of April 2022 from 18-19.30 hrs. Registration link \ud83d\udc49 \u0442\u0443\u043a\u0430.<\/a>!<\/p>\n

This is what one participant said:<\/p>\n

“I am fully convinced now that everyone shall attend such a training. It is life changing! Understanding the world map of oneself, accessing resources when they are needed and anchor states is so important to grow.” <\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

You are even braver when you enrol at the upcoming hybrid Communication Excellence training<\/a> on 22-24 April 2022! This is Module 1 of the Internationally Certified NLP Practitioner, online or live in Vienna! When you sign up in the next three days you will receive a special prize: a coaching session to uncover your unconscious values worth 180 EUR. <\/strong>You want to get that, right?<\/p>\n

Onward… <\/em><\/p>\n

Pause + State! small words with a LARGE impact.<\/h3>\n

At the beginning of the year I had a session with my coach and the word that came up was: PAUSE<\/strong>. Thoughts started rumbling in my head: How do I pause now when this is the time to push through? I can not afford to pause, I need to do! Do a lot! There is rent to be paid, I need to eat, to live and to survive. But, like a post it on my forehead this reminder was constantly present with me. As I finished a weekend of training I knew that a pause was necessary, but I felt guilty for not working on a Monday. I was struggling with allowing myself to rest. A deeply rooted belief in me: you have to work hard to succeed. But, how hard is hard enough? <\/strong><\/p>\n

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As I became aware of the pattern, of my belief and what meaning I gave to the word PAUSE, I started seeing more clearly. I was able to give the word PAUSE a different meaning and form a new belief – rest is important<\/strong>, simply being is important. We are human beings, not human doings! Allowing the Self to replenish is important!<\/p>\n

Looking deeper I found I was in a state of survival!<\/span>Everything I did and created, how I acted and reacted to the world around me, my perception, attention, my thoughts, decisions and behaviors were coming from this state of survival. Not a highly resourceful state, right?<\/p>\n

\u201cWe are dynamic and versatile organisms, adapted to fit multiple scenarios and numerous situations. Unlike what intuition might have us believe, our mind is not fixed, and our operation is not consistent. Just like our pupils can dilate to best match a specific amount of light, our entire mind can change depending on task and context\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

– Moshe Bar<\/em><\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Make a pause for a moment now, what is the state you are currently in? <\/strong><\/p>\n

Our state affects our performance! <\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

You have the power to change your state at any given moment in time. “How do I guard my state of being?”<\/a>is a recent article I wrote on rituals that help manage the state. The easiest way to affect your state is your breath. When you change your breathing pattern, you immediately change your state. Begin noticing your breathing pattern. Begin influencing it intentionally.<\/p>\n

As I decided to start acting from a state of abundance<\/span>, I could notice a shift in my awareness, my feelings and my behavior. A whole world of new opportunities and possibilities opened up.<\/p>\n

…. now ask yourself:<\/em><\/p>\n

How do I want to be? What is a different state I want to be in? <\/strong><\/p>\n

And to further explore: <\/em><\/p>\n

Do you want to get closer to your purpose?<\/h3>\n
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This small exercise might help:<\/p>\n

This was the theme of today’s Healthy Minds<\/a> meditation: Imagine it is your 100th birthday party.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Happy birthday \ud83e\udd73<\/p>\n

You are at your big celebration and everyone you know has gathered to tell stories about those times when you were at your best.<\/p>\n